So to start with, I have always welcomed everyone telling me where am I going wrong?! And my parents being my only idols I used to long for some experienced advice from them.
And I always appreciated other people too telling me "if I am wrong at some point!" And TBH I tried changing too from all what I got, partially because I was selfish and I wanted to keep everyone in my life. As it sucked when somebody had to leave.
But then this happened, I lost my idols and that made me even more insecure that what would happen if I will do something wrong, so I accepted even more feedbacks on my behaviour and responded everyone with a smile.
Ehh! But with time I realised that the people that I admired and respected not all of them tell me things for my well being instead they are somehow releasing their hatred for me by telling me that they want my wellbeing.
TBH, The jar is full now, I cannot take people telling me,

1. लड़की हो लडको से तुलना मत करो। ................... (Why would I compare? I know the differences! You can at least treat us equally!? Because this is not what I had learnt from my parents. My father always kept me aware of the truth but never told wrong things like you, he said , "you don't have a brother, you gotta do your things on your own". And I respected the truth.)

2. तुमने अकेले ने बुरे दिन नही देखे, ( I am sorry, if you haven't loved your parents enough to cry for them when they were gone!)

3. ज़िद्द है तुम्हारी नौकरी करना, पैसा तो आ रहा है, बाहर मत जाओ। शादी करो और खुश रहो। (When my father was educating me he had said to me, "you can study as much as you want to" I know things are not in line for me today, but I am not loosing hope for future.)

4. इतनी तो काली हो, पापा हैं नही तुम्हारे शादी होगी कैसे तुम्हारी? ( I am sorry, but I count you as a bad person.)

This was not just it, I have many! , I have many! And I know I surely am gonna get many..

I know loosing my parents gave every experienced person a right to school me and my sister about right and wrong, which I appreciate but not the things that don't align with what my parents had taught me and my sister, or is not right according to them, there's no one above them. We follow what they had taught and it will remain the same till our deaths.
I am sharing this because somewhere deep down it had kept me hurting and hurting badly, since I am an extrovert I thought may be this will help.